Want to learn more about Lupus?

26th Annual MD Lupus Summit

This is the link to the summit.  My husband and I will be attending this year.  It will be hosted at Johns Hopkins University and it is a free event.  If you are a new lupie or know and love one this is the event for you.  Word on the Lupus street is that Dr. Petri of the Lupus Center at JHU, my doctor, will be the keynote speaker.  Hope to see you there!

Now I Am THAT Parent...

Who gets into fights in the daycare parking lot.  Yup, that's me.  I knew it was going to happen and I expected it; however, I never expected this to happen in the parking lot at my son's daycare.  But I guess I was wrong to think that the nerdy old man who was exiting the daycare center would just smile and nod like the nice old man he appeared to be.  Oh boy was I wrong.  This week my arms, wrists and hands are sore and have been on and off numb.  So, even though my knees have only been hurting on and off, I pulled into the handicap spot up front and pull my handicap hang tag on my rear-view mirror.  I got out of the car and headed toward the door minding my own business.  I passed the old man with his child or grandchild and it took me a minute to realize what was happening.  His young son was talking about something but this man was talking loud over his son apparently not paying one bit of attention to what the child was saying.  What was this man going on about?  I only caught bit and pieces but the general idea was "There goes another Marylanders wrongfully parking in a handicap spot but is perfectly healthy, its a damn shame, blah blah blah" I couldn't believe this was happening and I planned to just be the bigger person and keep walking but I could not do that so of course I spoke up.  I turned around on my heels and said loud enough so he could hear me "Sir, you are so wrong and in fact very rude.  Not that I have to explain to you but I was issued this pass by the State of Maryland, you do not know me and I do not appreciate your accusations.  This must have caught him off guard because he began yelling about how he hates this state that gives everyone handicap tags and how it is misused and abused by people like me.  At this point I had to choose between continuing to argue with this man or to go inside, which is what I did.  I reported him to the front office, which has a window so the ladies could see who I was talking about.  There were two ladies, one laughed when I said "That man was harassing me in the parking lot and I do not appreciate it, he is very rude."  I looked at the woman who was laughing and said this is not funny.  Boy did that wipe the smile off her face.  I can only assume she was laughing because he is a problem father but I do not have anything to confirm that.  I surely hope she wasn't laughing because I said he was harassing me.  I told the ladies that he was yelling about me parking in a handicap spot and that I actually do have a legal pass to do so.

When my husband and I attended the first Lupus group meeting back in San Antonio, TX, the group leader said she was confronted at a store once by a man who started banging on the handicap parking sign saying she shouldn't park there since she is not disabled.  People are so insensitive and rude.  Not everyone who has a handicap or disability uses a wheelchair or crutches or is missing a leg.  To assume that someone with a handicap tag is lying is absurd. If they have a problem with who the DMV provides passes for then they should take it up with the DMV or their representatives.  I do not regularly use my pass but if I did it is no one's business.

I have lupus but I look fine.  My joints are stiff and throbbing but you don't see that. I hope I do not run into this man in the future.  I hope he was picking up his child at that time which was not a normal pick up time for him.  What should I do next time, smile and wave?  Ignore him?  I do not generally believe saying nothing is being a bigger person.  A bigger person stands up for whats right.  As a new member to the lupus community, it is my job and responsibility to point out assholes like this man and let them know how wrong they are.

I sure hope his child does not grow up to be like him.  Maybe he will be more compassionate.  I hope this evil man gets a horrible disease like Lupus and can't walk but still looks normal and healthy.  I hope someone calls him out on this when he parks in a handicap spot and I hope he remembers what he did to me.

Jackson and me celebrating summer finally!